Have you ever taken the coke bottle test? You put a coke bottle on a round table. Stand one side of the bottle. Describe what you see. Now move to a different view of the bottle and describe that sight.
This is an example of wearing pink colored glasses or taking a new perspective of the same object which could represent a life situation.
How do we establish a specific view on a life situation and judge whether it is a good or bad experience?
We get our worldview when we are in childhood. People such as our parents, family, teachers, religious figures and life situations. Traumatic events or what we perceive as traumatic causes us to believe it is good or bad experiences by how others react. We store these emotions and experiences in our brain and body. So as we mature we believe these things to be as we experienced them before when we were little.
Think about you and another person having an argument about a certain situation. When you are arguing with the other person do you argue to be right or to listen to the other person. Are you willing to have an open mind and practice seeing the other side that the other person has? Sometimes you can see the other person’s point of view and sometimes you might even change your mind and agree with that person’s point of view.
When you are in a perceived argument, start by taking a breath before you respond. This gives you the opportunity to be proactive rather than reactive. You may say or do something you may regard if you do not take a step back and breath before saying or doing something in a reactive manner.
When you are in a situation that quote triggers you, your emotions in your body that are hysterical may be historical. Again when you are triggered it takes you back to a situation in your childhood and you may react with fight, flight or be paralized . Again breath and remind yourself that you are not in the same situation as that child was or maybe it is an emergent situation like someone is coming after you with a knife. One situation is dangerous and one situation may be perceived as danger.
Questions you can ask yourself:
- Is this really true?
- Can I absolutely know for certain, with no doubt at all that this is true?
- How do I react when I believe this thing?
- And Who would I be without believing that thought?
ONCE YOU REALIZE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ISN’T SERVING YOU ANYMORE, IT’S MUCH EASIER TO TAKE ANOTHER BREATH AND LET IT GO.
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